Sunday, August 29, 2010

Being Thankful and Forgiving Others.

I had a lunch with a friend this past Friday and was telling me of some good things he learned down at BYU Education Week.  One of things he learned was about being grateful.  The Lord has provided everything there is for us here on earth.  We should not go through life and not be grateful for what we have.  When we realize what we are grateful for then our life will improve and we will be a happier person.  There are some ways that we can do to help us to be better grateful.

Long term: 
  • Writing a Grateful Journal. To put what you are grateful for that day or week.  For example, "For living in a house", "Having a wonderful family", "Having a compliment from my boss" etc. Then you can see as you write in it, that of how much stuff small or big that you have been for that day or week. 
  • Grateful Breathing You inhale a good deal and then as you exhale you think of a gratitude and say it in your mind.  Do it 3 or 4 times.  It helps when you are having a bad thought and will train the brain to automatic to think of that thought when that thought comes again.  Be specific in what you say, don't be to general. 
Short term.
  • Write a letter Take the time to take out a piece of paper and pen and write to a specific person on how they have been a grateful person to you.  It will be a blessing to that person to know that they actually made someones day as well as the person writing it to know that the person is happy to be part of their life.  It would be preferred if you hand write instead of an email. 

By doing these things your health will improve, your mind will be clearer, you will be more happy in life and have more self control over what your mind and emotions are.  You will still have trials in life but by doing this and being grateful will let the Lord know and will bless you ever more. 

As you are grateful for the things you have you want to be a better person by forgiving those who you have hurt along the way.  Its sad that we live in a world where people may hurt someone in what ever way.  The old saying "Stick and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt".  How many times have we heard that saying when we young? I know I have heard that saying many a times.  The truth is that words do hurt just as much as sticks and stones.  Saying to someone something mean hurts their feelings and enough times being told that they start to think that its true, when in truth it isn't. There is no justification of being mean to someone wither they be friend or foe.  Asking forgiveness is a part of the process of being sorry to that person.  It makes one a better person to say that they are sorry. 

I would like to say that I'm sorry for anyone that I may have hurt their feelings.  I know that the Lord loves everyone and if we are to be a better people, nation, country and world, we need to ask for forgiveness for those who we have hurt and leave it up to that person to accept or reject it. 

Friday, August 27, 2010

Education of life.

Class is now back in session.  For everyone that is reading this is most likely taking college classes or just done with school.  We are told to have education to learn about the world, nation, nature, space, heaven etc. To be able to accomplish anything we need to study about it so we can no how to cure diseases, manage a job, raise a family, etc.  The other option is to lay around and not get a education at all and let life go by. 

There is another type of school which is life.  We can't see the teacher but we are in school here on earth.  We do lessons, quizzes and tests.  We either learn from them and reap the reward or fail and face the consequences.  There is no recess or lunch break in this school.  The only thing we don't know is when graduation will be, for that will be when we have learned all that we need to learn and we leave this earth by way of death.  We then face the teacher and tell him of what we have learned and did with what we did our life.  We will have a full conscience of all the bad and good that we did.  We can not lie or hide anything from him so it might as well be honest.  What we want is A instead of F in life. 

The Savior will help us only if we are willing to let him to help us in our school of life. 

*Note With me starting school, I'll post when I can. So it may just be once a week instead of before when I had free time on my hands.

Monday, August 23, 2010

What a friend is.

  • Someone you can talk to with your problems.
  • Who cheers you on.
  • Is there for you.
  • Someone you can depend on.
  • Who makes sure you have a fun time.
  • Says " I love you".
  • Comforts you when needing comfort.
  • Willing to go the extra mile.
  • Can give a hug to.
  • Makes your day better.
  • Looks in the positive in you instead of the negative.
  • Helps you become a better person.
  • is the Savior.
There are so many friends out there, good and bad friends.  Some will help you to improve yourself while others while bring you down and just use your friendship for something else.  Its important to have friends in your life. You don't have to do everything that I listed, just being there for someone is good enough.  I don't know what I would be like without any friends.  It would seem to be lonely, dark, cold world to live without any friends.  
The one friend that we can count on is Jesus Christ.  He is our true friend that we have.  He knows what we have been through since our birth here on earth.  He has grown through our trials, disappointments, mistakes, errors, etc.  When we need a friend and am not able to get in touch with anyone, he will be there, the one friend that will never leave you.

Monday, August 16, 2010

Marriage is a wonderful thing.

"Love is in the air!" I like that quote.  I'm sure someone has said it in a movie or a book, I just don't know who said it. 

This past Friday I went to a wedding ceremony of my sister.  It was great to see two people who fall in love to marry each other.  The life of being married is just a milestone.  Its the start of a new adventure of life along with another person.   Its a lifetime achievement to get to that point. 

What is marriage exactly? Marriage is a union between two people a man and a woman.  They come to love one another and want to spend their rest of their lives with each other.  Along the way they do have stumble blocks along the way, since life is not always fair so is marriage.  Its not always happy and wonderful time.  There are times when a sickness, death, loss of job, loss of home, etc. which makes it sad but is a part of life and can't just have wonderful and happy times for that is not what marriage is.  It would be a fake if not to have those come into marriage.  With those times as long as the couple works it out together and overcome the struggle then the light at the end comes into view and rejoice that they were able to overcome it. 

Do not let one struggle avoid thinking, "I don't want to get married and have problems." Well even if you are single you still will have problems.  That is what life is for to find someone to spend life with and start a family of our own.  Go through challenges, up and downs, sickness and health, its what makes the marriage stronger and that much worthwhile to be married.

Marriage is wonderful and fun and yes I don't always like the challenges that come my way but I look forward with my spouse and working on it and seeing the light at the end and cheering on that we together overcame the challenge and still married.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010


  • All mankind
  • Yourself
  • Everyone
  • Your neighbor
  • Is eternal
  • Is powerful
  • God
  • Your siblings
  • Your parents
  • Your spouse
  • Your children
  • One another
  • You

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Being funny with a joke and a tease.

*This post is not to put any blame or point a finger to anyone in particular*

Boy: "Knock, Knock?"
Girl: "Who is there?"

We all like a joke, don't we? What exactly is a joke, well the definition of a joke is "something said or done to cause laughter; a ridiculous person or thing." 
Every April 1 is known as April Fools Day, how the origin came about is to ones own interpretation.  I believe it started during Dark Ages where there was a lot of gloom.  The citizens wanted to have a little fun so whenever a royalty came by they did funny things.  Like the horse in the driver's seat and the person in the horse's spot, a person feeding the chickens from the roof of the house, someone doing something upside down or the opposite and it was quite funny. 
The other word that is similar to a joke is a tease.  The definition of tease is "playfully making fun of or attempt to provoke." There is a fun tease, where both parties laugh and there is a mean tease where one side of the party is crying and doesn't think it was funny. 
Fun tease or a funny joke is great, while mean tease or a bad joke isn't.  There is an old adage where,"We love those who we tease for if we didn't love them we wouldn't tease them."  Amazing that we tease someone because we love them, just to see their reaction to the joke or tease. 
I'm sure we all like being told a funny joke or a funny tease which to make our life better that second. 
I know that we can't read minds of others and don't know how they will react and that I think we are all fault at times for not always making a funny joke or happened to be a mean tease which at the time we thought it would be funny but at the end we realize that it wasn't. 
There is an imaginary line that is drawn and once we cross that line sometimes its hard to go back to where we were with that person.  Sometimes friendships have been terminated because of a bad joke and realize that it wasn't meant to be that way. 
We should always think before we say a joke or do a tease that the other party will get the laugh that we hope to expect to hear.

Now to back to that joke at the beginning

Boy: "I've been knocking so long I can't remember what I was going to say."